Updated: Feb 18
I recently had a conversation where I expressed how happy and joyful I am, even though I’m not at the place that I would like to be in several areas of my life. It was hard for them to hear because they know some of the struggles I’ve had and continue to have, and they thought I was settling.
That couldn’t be further from the truth. I am still doing lots of self-development work, and I am not postponing my happiness and joy until I “get there.”
Not being a Pollyanna, but I have an overall feeling of joy because I am aligned with my highest value of freedom. And I’m no longer willing to sacrifice my happiness and place myself in situations that take me out of alignment with my highest value.
Yes, I’m a work in progress, and happy to be doing so because that means that I’m still alive with the faculties to be able to do self-development work.
We all have certain contracts and sticking points that are our life-long challenges to overcome. And believe me, I’ve scraped the bottom of the barrel and have come back with some of mine.
Coming face-to-face with the most ugly, nasty parts of ourselves is not for the faint of heart. You know, those places that we try and hide from others and ourselves, because we “couldn’t ever be like THAT!” And then learning how to accept, embrace, and treat them with love is even harder. There can be so much shame and embarrassment, that some just can’t go there.
But imagine if you chose to align with joy, even though things may not look the way you would like them to. Imagine if you were happy, even in the midst of the process.
It’s possible. Not easy, but possible.
Imagine if you trusted that the Universe has your back—always. Even when crappy things happen. It’s all in the big picture. And all of this is happening FOR you—always.
Are you triggered? “Sure, that’s easy for you to say!” you might think. THAT’s the place we need to dig in then and do some work. I couldn’t be in integrity and say it if I didn’t believe it. And I can believe it because I’ve experienced it for myself.
That’s one reason why I love The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. He talks about how in the Toltec, we are all in a play, and each of us is an actor with a part to play. Sometimes those parts are sucky and sometimes they are the best! And all of the parts are orchestrated to help us grow and learn.
I’ve been so fortunate to be able to have some angels in my life that have shown up just in time to help me through those stages. To remind me of who I truly am. To remind me that I am not my circumstances. To remind me that I am a powerful and wonderful expression of the Divine and that I can make it through if I keep going.
That’s the thing that I love most about being a coach. I get to be that person for you.
And if you’re interested in learning more about what your highest, secondary and supporting values are, I’m about to launch a new program that will help you discover and align with them. Stay tuned!